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Gardening and Children

School this past Monday was working in our yard. The kids and I enjoyed being productive, and we really did accomplish a lot:

  • weeded the front flowerbeds (which gratefully didn’t need much weeding)
  • weeded some of the vegetable garden
  • planted sunflower seeds to hide a bare ugly patch of fence
  • created a border between the front flower beds and the lawn
  • helped the kids put the grass I dug up near their playhouse so it wouldn’t always be muddy when it rained
  • experimented with transplanting a cutting of purple phlox
  • transplanted some strawberry plants that were being overrun by grass

It only took about 6 hours. I was surprised at how much doing something I had wanted done for so long gave me so much energy. I had only slept about 5 hours the night before. I was tired when I was finished, but I didn’t need a nap! That has been unusual for me lately. I believe it was a lesson to me that I can do the things I need/want to do with as much energy as I need…when I do it joyfully! The kids, of course, had energy and some to spare.

Weeding the Vegetable Garden
I have initially been frustrated with my kids and their unwillingness to help weed the garden. Our garden is fairly large and requires quite a bit of weeding before planting. I normally would just get angry and shout when a child would run off and avoid weeding when the family was doing it, but Monday was different…

I had the idea of weeding together, but we would only do it for 20 minutes. I brought out my kitchen timer. The kids knew ahead of time that weeding wouldn’t last forever. They had a pretty good idea of what 20 minutes was, and they knew they could make it that long. Lightning kept telling me he was a good weeder, and I praised him for being one! My 6yo struggled to keep working, but the other children didn’t complain like they had in the past because now they had an expected time line. I couldn’t believe I hadn’t thought of it before!!! It made for a great time with the kids, and we got quite a chunk of weeding done! My frustration was no longer there, and the children learned that weeding the garden isn’t all that bad. We talked about why it was important to clear the weeds (no sticker plants to hurt their feet or spread everywhere, the weeds would be gone so the plants we wanted like watermelons and pumpkins could be nourished by the soil instead of the weeds taking it, etc…). We did it joyfully together, and it made all of the difference. A few more days of that, and we’ll have the whole garden finished!

Planting Seeds
Though I haven’t done much planting yet, the children all wanted to help plant seeds. I’m amazed at how they understand that these amazing tiny seeds can grow to be huge plants that provide us with beauty and food. Several of my children have wanted to help with or have a place of their own to plant seeds. My oldest two, Ella (12) and Aurora (9) have sectioned off an area near the playhouse for them to plant their own little gardens. Lightning (7) said he wasn’t interested in growing plants, and I know he’ll do it when he’s ready. If he continues to not have an interest, that’s okay. My Wendy (6) is just so happy to help me with my flowers. I may end up with a few sunflowers in the grass due to some seed dropping, and I’m okay with that. Her learning experience matters more than where the seeds are planted. Little Peter (3) wants to help so much he pulls everything out for me because he still thinks we’re weeding, but with some guidance he sure is a good dirt mover. I just had to find a way to include him.

My child with the most devotion to gardening is Aurora. When she gets an idea in her head to do it, she’ll weed, water, and take care of it without much help from me. I love to watch her light up when she’s tells me all about the flowers she planted or the strawberry plant that I had given her is now planted in just the right place. She learns so many lessons from each growing season. She’ll be a terrific gardener, and all because she wants to do it!

Ella told me today that she finds it interesting that we don’t plant our seeds according to the ruler, but according to our fingers. All I did was help her plant her seeds at the right depth and width apart by showing her the measurements on her fingers. Such a simple thing, and she noticed it! I don’t recall that little gem even crossing my own mind. I love learning along with my children and gleaning their wisdom too! Children have such wonderful things to teach us if we just listen.

Transplanting Grass and Strawberries
Over a year ago, we had to remove our flowerbed border because the wood was rotting. Due to other priorities, we never put a new border in. I was getting so frustrated that the grass was overrunning my flowerbeds, and I just couldn’t figure out what to do. After talking with my friend, Emily, I finally had a temporary solution. I could create a gap between the grass and the dirt and make sure to keep the dirt mounded up and away from the grass. It would create a natural border to keep the grass roots from spreading giving us time to save and decide on a more permanent solution.

Using my rounded and square mouth shovels I cut and pried grass up and out of my flower beds. I had quite a few foot wide strips dug out. Aurora reminded me that her and the other children wanted grass near the playhouse. I obliged and told them how to prepare the soil for the grass pieces they would get. Aurora did most of it herself, but Lightning and Ella eventually joined it once they knew what it meant. They naturally wanted to help once they saw the benefit. I often forget as a parent to tell my children the whole story…the benefits as it were…for doing things whether inside our home or outside of it. How easy it is to get them to enjoy the ride instead of complain when they just know the reason.

In the process of clearing my flower beds of grass, I had to dig up some of my strawberry plants (planted in a part of the flower beds). I tried to separate some of the little plants and move them, and there were so many to transplant that I didn’t want to crowd them all in the flowerbed.

My children had a short lesson on transplanting just by watching me dig the plant out, carefully separate the plant from the grass, dig a hole for it, put water in the hole, carefully place the plant in the hole, fill the dirt around it, and water it again. My oldest two were joyful receivers of some of those strawberry plants and followed the easy process of transplanting them by themselves.

I am so excited to see our yard blossom and the children bloom in their knowledge of the Law of the Harvest. We certainly reap what we sow, and gardening is an easy way to teach that to my children.

Chore Charts

I’ve been avoiding the chore thing for a long time. I’d assign a job to my children, but often I would do them myself or let it go. I never had a system down or used consistency in making my children do work. I’ve been feeling the push to change that. It’s part of our family’s CORE learning that I’ve been neglecting–to my detriment and ultimately theirs.

For the past few weeks my children have known what jobs to expect and when. I finally assigned rooms or areas of the house in addition to laundry and dishes. The older two children would have the same jobs for two days and then trade (I created a two-week schedule to help with this, week A and week B). My two middle children would have the same jobs because they’re only six and four. I wrote the chores on my large white board. It’s been a very “large” reminder for me and the kids. Well, now I can’t use the board otherwise, so I finally sat down today and made a chart. Since I’ve tested the chores and assignments before creating the chart, I believe it will continue to work for my family and allow me to have my board back.

I plan to put the charts in a clear sheet protector so we can write with a dry-erase marker and erase it easily. This way my children can mark off what they accomplished for accountability purposes as well as for seeing what needs to be done. There are 2 boxes for each chore–one for morning and one for evening. Using the sheet protector saves paper and ink so I won’t need to print a new chart every few weeks.

This is my version for my family. Explanations for each assignment follow the documents.

Here are blank documents if you want to use them. Please, only for personal use. Each one has room of 4 children and 17 jobs/assignments.

This blank one is in color. It’s available in .doc or .pdf format:

Here’s the blank one in grey. If you have boys and they refuse to be labeled with pink, this one is for you. It’s also available in .doc or .pdf format.

Sunday: Sunday chores aren’t like the other days. I don’t believe that Heavenly Father expects me to just let my house get messy just because it’s Sunday…so my children still have assignments, but they are much less involved than on other days.  For instance, I don’t expect my girls to scrub the bathrooms on Sunday but make sure the towels are hung up or clothing is in the dirty laundry instead of on the floor.  I only expect the children to keep things straightened up in their respective areas, not do deep cleaning.  We do daily pickups and make sure that the house is clean for Sunday to avoid the deep cleaning that day.

Clean Dishes: This just means that one of my children is in charge of emptying the dishwasher and putting the dishes away, as well as any clean dishes in the dish drainer on the counter top.

Dirty Dishes: The child with this assignment gets to put dirt dishes in the dishwasher and make sure anything else that doesn’t fit in gets washed too.

Living Room: I like my living room to me picked up and nice because it’s the first thing someone sees when they come to my front door or looks through my front window.  Also, it has tons of books in it which means that they tend to get strewn across the floor when the little ones look at books.  I don’t mind that, I just like it to be cleaned up without me having to do it all the time.  I also have couch pillows that we have been putting on the rocks in front of my fireplace as seat cushions.  These also tend to be out of place a lot.  Vacuuming and dusting is part of the living room assignment, if it’s needed.

Kitchen: My kitchen is small, and if it’s messy, I go absolutely crazy!  This assignment is more to help me with the kitchen since a lot of my time is spent in it preparing food.  Some of the jobs for the kitchen are: wiping off counters and the stove top, sweeping the floor, mopping the floor, washing off cupboards, washing the window, and picking up toys and papers off the floor.

Family Room: This is our big room downstairs.  I don’t go downstairs as often as the children play down there.  It houses lots of books (we’re getting another bookshelf to replace the one the kids broke months ago), and the entertainment center (tv, dvd/vcr player, movies).  We have a few large chairs and an old love sac.  Nothing spectacular, but it gets the messiest because the kids take their toys in there and leave them.  It is adjacent to a wide hallway which also tends to get toys dumped in it.  Some of the jobs for the family room is: vacuuming when needed, straightening up the entertainment center, picking up toys and other things on the floor; straightening up the books, etc…

Hallway (down): This is pretty similar to the family room or living room chore, only it involves one table and some floor space.  The person who vacuums the family room, does the hallway, but the child who has the hallway assignment does everything else.  The only thing that should be left in the hall is the table.

Bedroom: My oldest two girls share a bedroom.  They’re working on taking care of their own stuff, but my eight year-old tends to be the messiest because she just leaves her stuff all over the place.  This exasperates my ten year-old, but it’s a process, and she’s slowly understanding that.  The requirements for their bedroom is: put all toys away in toy boxes and appropriate places, dirty clothes in the hamper, clean clothes hung up or in drawers, beds made (they do their own), vacuum if needed, straighten up surfaces like their desk and dresser, and straighten up shoes on closet floor.

Recycle Bin & Garbage: We have a recycle box in our kitchen for recyclable paper and plastic.  When it gets full, my oldest son, who is six, takes it out to the bin in the driveway.  Garbage for him is just to take the kitchen garbage out to the can in the driveway.  He’ll work up to emptying all the garbage cans in the house.

Bathrooms: We have 1 3/4 baths.  My oldest daughter has pretty much been the only one to clean the bathroom besides myself or my husband.  It’s overdue for my eight year-old to learn this chore.  Jobs included in these assignments: sweep floor; clean mirror; empty garbage; scrub and wipe down sink, toilet, and tub; mop the floor, and wipe down walls (if needed).

Laundry: My oldest knows how to sort, wash, dry, and put away all the laundry, but it’s a monumental task in our household because there is so much (7 people will make it that way!).  My eight year-old can sort dirty laundry and put away clean laundry, but the wash/dry is something she’s just learning.  I’ve been too focused on other things to teach it to her.  That’s changing!  Each child’s assignment for laundry is based upon their age.  My oldest two will be doing it all except putting it all away.  My two middle children can help sort clean laundry and put it away, as well as put their dirty laundry in the laundry room.  We have a family clean laundry sort if we have more than one batch to sort.  The kids do it fast now, and seem to enjoy the family time even if it’s doing work.  I love that!

Blanks: I may come up with something else to add or make a seasonal assignment like snow shoveling or lawn mowing.  I haven’t decided exactly yet.  We’ll have to see.

Sleepover with grandma

My oldest two haven’t had a sleepover with my mom in months. They really enjoy spending time with her and playing at her house. My mom called yesterday and said she wanted to have them over for a sleepover tonight. I readily agreed upon the condition that the girls aren’t sick (my mom will be having surgery next week and can’t afford to get sick). So, I hadn’t told them until about 5 minutes ago and my mom will be here at 5pm to pick them up. Normally they VERY impatiently wait and ask, wait and ask, if I tell them any earlier than a short time before the event whether it be a family function or friend’s play date. When I did tell them, they were soooooo excited! If only grandma could see the looks on their sweet faces! They were more than happy to gather their clothes and necessities. Ella, my 7yo, called it a “happy chore.” I had to laugh! Kids do say the darndest things. Children make all the heartache and frustration worthwhile.