I was able to take notes in my journal about the wonderful messages of the prophet, the apostles, and other church leaders in General Conference the past few days. I came away with a full heart!

I loved the new announcement that eligible ages for missionaries were dropped to 18 from 19 for young men and from 21 to 19 for young women. That puts the possibility of my oldest going on a mission if she chooses to less than 6 years. Wow! Several of my best friends have children much closer than that…less than a year and a half. My niece could potentially be leaving around Christmas time if she chooses to go on a mission instead of having to wait two more years. Wow!

So many messages! These are my favorites:

We can't insist on our own time table when the Lord has His own.-Pres. Henry B. Eyring

My family and I have some challenges that won’t seem to let up or change. {Five years is a long time.} I know they will change for the better, and we just need to trust in the Lord’s timing instead of our own. We’re moving our feet and striving to move forward. Heavenly Father is not hidden from us unless we put up our own walls. He is always there. Though the journey seems slow, I’m grateful for a loving Heavenly Father who will make our life better than we ever planned it to be and that in the perspective of eternity, five years is but a very small moment.

pollinate the world with the pure love of Christ.-Elder M. Russell Ballard

I sometimes feel like in my own little sphere I’m not making a huge difference. Elder Ballard’s talk was a great reminder that even though I have felt that way, I really am making a difference. I am a disciple of Jesus Christ, and I’m striving my best to live the way He wants me to. I can spread the love of Christ through my service and my example. It matters to Him, and it matters to those I personally influence. It matters to my husband and my children. It matters to my extended family and close friends. It matters to those I have served that will never know me personally. I can help pollinate the world with His love!

never delay a prompting-Pres. Thomas S. Monson

Service is the very definition of pure religion-M. Russell Ballard

All throughout conference, I heard over and over that Heavenly Father answers prayers through other people. We can be the answer to someone’s prayer when we follow the promptings of the Holy Ghost. I have known it for a long time, but it must be a lesson I needed reminding of because I heard it so many times!

We always go to my in-laws for conference breakfast with the extended family for the first session of conference on Sunday. It’s nice to get together and share together in hearing the word of God and of course enjoying good food. We left with the desire to go home to fix lunch and prepare for the next session of conference. On the way home, we were given the opportunity to not delay a prompting and provide service. {During Conference, I was also reminded that the opportunities to provide service are not always convenient.}

We saw a woman on the side of the road pushing her car out of the center median. We drove on for a few seconds before David said, “Should we go back and help her.” We turned around and couldn’t find her on the road. We turned into the parking lot of a library to turn around when we saw the car. David didn’t think it was her because he thought the car we were looking for had out of state plates. I knew it was her because of her pink hair. {Yes, I just said she had pink hair.} We helped her with what she needed and made sure she was on her way before leaving to go home. Though the experience didn’t seem terribly inconvenient–we didn’t even miss the second session or lunch–we would have gladly helped as long as we were needed. My children never complained or wondered when they would get to eat. I’m grateful the children were able to see us trying to live and do as the Savior would in the same circumstances. It was an opportunity for us to practice what we had been hearing about all weekend during conference and for the children to see another instance where we were trying to live the gospel not just make them listen to people talk about it.

ask the missionaries, they can help

We seem to have had a lot of eyes on us lately as members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints due to the coming election where a member of our faith is running for president. I’m sure many people outside of our faith were watching parts of conference to see what we’re all about. I loved how Elder Russell M. Nelson recommended talking to the missionaries to help people get joy back into their lives, do family history work, be healthy, know the truth about life after death…and so on. It’s true too! If you want to know more, ask the missionaries!

I'm a Mormon. I know it. I live it. I love it!-Sister Ann M. Dibb of the YW General Predidency

I’m Mormon. I know it. I live it. I love it!” This made me want to make t-shirts that have this statement on it! It might get more attention outside of Utah, but it would still be a wonderful shirt to wear!

I love Elder Oaks’ talk! Protecting children and helping them is very important to my family. The topic is near and dear to my heart, and everything Elder Oaks said resonated of truth. {The Spirit is so wonderful!} His talk was a reminder that I need to make sure I continue to work on improving my relationship with my family. I need to strive to do better at being calm with my children and use the teaching moments that come up throughout my day.

With many people in our country trying to change the definition of marriage to something it is not, I found Elder Oaks’ statement above to be a very welcome addition to conference. {The Family: A Proclamation to the World goes into more details about marriage, children, and their ideal roles which we all should strive for.} The gospel and plan of salvation gives my family and I an eternal perspective, and I’m so grateful!

So what were your favorite talks or lessons from General Conference?

David and Brandi – 13th Anniversary Getaway

With so many people choosing to end their marriages, there is one thing I wish all people would understand and live…marriage takes work and diligence. If we choose not to work on our marriages, they eventually fail. As the adage goes, “The grass is greener where you water it.” Yellow and brown spots need watering, not abandonment.

One of the things we have always done as a couple to “water” our relationship is to make sure we are keeping communication lines open with each other. We talk every night, not just about the kids or what the next day’s activities were going to be, but we talk about our dreams and hopes for the future with each other. We always approach our challenging conversations with love and kindness. We don’t scream at each other or blame each other, though the adversary certainly tries to get us to. We own up to our part of the challenge we’re facing and are forgiving of each other.

Lifting our relationships to a higher plane and keeping a marriage alive and thriving, always starts with ourselves. We need to see our spouses as people with their own thoughts, feelings, trials, and choices. We need to see them as people and seek to understand them instead of treating them as objects. It’s easier said than done, but with practice and application, it works!

If you’d like more information there are many resources, and here are just a few that have worked for me and that I recommend:

  • The Anatomy of Peace – I really loved the book, and it helped me to see people as people instead of objects.
  • The Business of Marriage – Dino and Shannon put on an awesome event and have some helpful products as well. My husband and I had a fabulous time at The Business of Marriage seminar at the beginning of April. We came home after three days and felt like newlyweds again. I can’t say we haven’t had opposition, but we came home with more tools to help us make our good marriage into a fantastic one.  We always felt uplifted and inspired, never like we needed “fixing.”  They are excellent at helping people find the answers within themselves to help their relationship thrive.

If you find yourself struggling in any way in your marriage (large or small) or know that you need to add something to your tool belt, seek inspiration and resources to help you make your marriage better. As the wise Benjamin Franklin said, “An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.”

So, what are you doing to help your marriage improve?

My brother-in-law asked the girl he loves to marry him last night, and I was thinking a little more about what I would say to him or someone getting ready to get married–something that would make a person think, and yet desire to still make the leap of faith and do it. This thought came to my mind early this morning:

Marriage is the most exciting, challenging, and worthwhile adventure that you will ever embark upon.

I’m sure there are other great marriage quotes out there, but I was excited to be a messenger for the Spirit. I only listened and shared a bit of inspiration given to me as a gift.

After 13 years of marriage, I can testify that the quote remains truer than ever! I wouldn’t trade my marriage for the world. Marriage between a man and woman is of God, and it is worth every minute of the trials and especially the joys! If you want your marriage to last, you need to include God in your partnership. He wants your marriage to succeed too.

May you include God in your marriage and find ways to strengthen your own marriage together as you continue moving forward in this wonderful adventure we call life. If you’re not married yet, I hope you find that amazing person who treats you like a queen or a king and create your own personal adventure. You deserve it! After all, you are a child of the greatest King–your Heavenly Father!

How did I get to be so blessed? David and I have been married for 13 years as of today! It seems so long (in a good way!), and yet so short too! David has always supported and loved me in my best and worst times. He lets me know I’m pretty and makes me feel loved. He is an amazing husband and father. I couldn’t have asked for a better man to love and spend eternity with.

I love you sweetie!